Feeling unloved?

pebble with messageI am still in Lithuania and had the oddest dream last night. I was speaking at a church. It was the one I speak at frequently in Kona but it was in Vermont. It felt like pioneer times, very old and dust. I fell in the river on the way to the church. The water was surprisingly warm so I enjoyed myself and finally got to the church.

Everyone was depressed. Really, really depressed and unhappy. When I started talking about love they got very angry so I decided to talk to each person individually.

How to go from feeling unloved to knowing you are loved

I sat and listened to their stories about why they were so miserable. When they were finished I would put my hand on their shoulder and tell them, “You are loved, you are lovable and you swim in a sea of love. I  know you don’t feel that but I will show you how to absolutely know you are loved and you feel loved.” [Read more...]

Familiar faces and transformed lives

IMG_1099[1]I am enjoying my time in Latvia and Lithuania. Tuesday night I gave a talk and a number of people came up to me smiling broadly, thanked me and gave me a big hug.

One woman told the group she wanted to share her story about going on a hike that lasted almost a week, all alone. At first she was afraid but then she remembered something I had said and decided to face her fears.

It was late the first night and she had been sitting in her tent terrified. There were lots of people walking around with flash lights. She expected to be assaulted at any moment. Then she decided to face her fears and stepped boldly out of her tent. Instead of people she saw a lighthouse in the distance.

For the rest of the trip she consciously chose to walk near the edge of the cliff and in the deepest parts of the sea. She went on to say that her life had totally changed and thanked me. Her face was filled with joy as she related the story to the group. When she finished the group exploded into applause for her.

Once of the reason I love returning to the Baltic Sea each year is I get to see people a year after they have worked with me and I get to hear all the amazing stories of magic and miracles in their lives. I love helping people transform their lives and deepen their connect with the love that always surrounds us.

As I often say in the groups: You are love, you are loved, you swim in a sea of love and only the love is real. What an amazing way to live our life!

I’d love to help you live your life that way as well. When I return at the end of September I will be opening up my coaching/training program. I only work with 6 people at a time so make sure you sign up early for the free call to explore if we would be a good fit or not.

Just fill out this form and I will contact you to set up our free call.

I find the statistics on this form interesting – fewer than 3% of the people take the time to actually fill out the form. Just filling out the form will bring you greater clarity and it will be a statement to yourself and the universe that you are ready to change. Take the risk of stepping out from behind your limiting thinking and see the beautiful lighthouse that love is!

I’d love to see your comments. Would you have walked 80 kilometers alone? Would you have stepped out of that tent? Do you have a similar story you’d like to share?

With love, happiness, joy and aloha,


I’m in Latvia and a bit about self-love

IMG_1288[1]This time I am staying by a lake. It seems to be called Green  Lake which is interesting because  in Hawaii we have a Green Lake that is a very sacred place.

It is fall here and the clouds are moving very rapidly in the sky. It is quiet and when I got here a group of former students were waiting to greet me. It was nice to see familiar faces. After sleeping and sleeping and sleeping I feel almost normal.

Love comes in so many forms. As I traveled half way around the world for a time asking for a wheel chair was the most loving thing I could do. I got a new hip 2 months ago and after three airports I got tired of walking so I asked for help. [Read more...]

Amazing You

The power of your thoughts: words in action


Like gears in a machine our thoughts have power. They have the power to create a life filled with magic and miracles or a life filled with horror and limitations. Those gears inevitably turn one another, the direction is totally up to us.

Happiness and joy or sadness and loneliness?

Do you speak lovingly to yourself or do you judge?
Do you take time each day to feed your soul or are you too busy to take time for yourself?
Do you feel loved or unloved? Lovable or unlovable?
Do you value your own needs and or are others needs more important than yours?
Are you following your bliss or are you plodding through life believing the lies you’ve been told? [Read more...]

Ever felt stuck . . .

Copy of fork in the roadWhen I began my spiritual journey I felt so stuck. It seemed like no matter what I tried the results I got were the same. I kept creating the same pattern over and over again.

This (whatever the current book or process was) is the answer. I knew this would work this time. I would be all excited and hopeful, work really hard and before I knew it I would feel overwhelmed and hopeless all over again.

Eventually I decided there was something so inherently wrong with me that nothing would work. It was me. I was defective, unfixable and a hopeless case. At a core level I was unworthy and unlovable, after all that was what my mother kept telling me and the results I was getting affirmed that.

In hindsight I realized I kept trying to punish myself or polish myself into perfection. If only I was perfect then I would be happy and successful.

Now I know I had it all backwards. I kept trying to move away from pain so I kept creating more pain to move away from. Once I started moving toward happiness and joy instead I created more joy and happiness to move toward. Believe me it was a much more enjoyable journey.

You can move away from fear or toward love. Guess what? Whatever you choose to move away from you create more of so begin to move toward what you do want rather than away from what you don’t want.

So the question becomes very simple.

What do you want more of?

What DO you want? Focus on that and it will appear.

And remember:

Only the love is real.

You swim in a sea of love.

You are love, you are loved and you are lovable.

You are perfect just the way you are.

Any other affirmations you have found helpful? Please put them in the comment section below.

With love, joy and aloha,

109: Staying Centered

Is your spiritual quest difficult when your family and friends are not on the same path? Do you have trouble staying grounded and not taking things personally? The gift of choice our loved ones give us is the focus of this episode.