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My mom believed change was impossible. She often told me you were born with a bunch of traits and you would die with them, that change was an illusion. Of course she had a very odd mother and a husband that lied a lot, especially about fidelity and his favorite sentence was, “I promise it will never happen again.”
I never agreed with her. I knew deep in my heart change was a process but it was possible. How I knew it I am not sure but I just knew she was wrong. Oddly enough 35 years later I dedicated my life to showing people how to change their lives and create what they what they want.
Change is part of life’s journey. If you embrace it with a sense of curiosity and look forward to the new outcomes change can actually be fun. This is the first video in a series about change and creating a better life. I hope you enjoy it.
With love and aloha,
I got a new knee last week. Saying that still feels like science fiction to me! Old knee gone, I assume burned up as medical waste and a new knee in its place. Once the tissue around the new knee heals I will be able to hike again. I can already walk, swing my knee smoothly and there is no more crunch and munch in the joint.
Change is awesome …
We live in a universe that is incredible. It is constantly growing, expanding and changing. The thing we so often forget is that in order to change our life all we have to do is change our filter system. All we really need to do is let go of our limiting beliefs and poof … our life changes dramatically.
Since I got my new knee I have been having a series of powerful dreams. I have seen images of beliefs that have limited me since I was a young child. The neat thing is I have also awakened with the willingness to let go of those beliefs.
The willingness to be willing
Change = making new choices
Making new choices = becoming aware of our thought patterns
Once we are aware of our thought patterns we need to be willing to change. I once realized deciding to be willing to be willing to be willing made change a lot easier. Practice being willing to let go of what doesn’t work in your life and watch the magic unfold in your life.
With love and aloha,
Today is Friday and we’re heading into the weekend. I was thinking about some of the most common problems that I see people having when it comes to finding joy and happiness. I’d like to share the top three issues that seem to stop all of us from feeling the natural joy we could be experiencing otherwise.
There’s a funny thing about changing your life. While on the one hand, it’s hard at times and takes dogged determination to stick with it, it’s also as simple and instantaneous and easy as pausing to take a deep breath and smiling in the moment of difficulty. Change can actually be fun, rather easy and enjoyable once you know how to change.
One: Making Mountains Out of a Mole Hills
I once had a poster that said, “When you are up to your ass in alligators it is hard to remember your initial objective was to drain the swamp.” It was a wonderful reminder when I was down and looking at the shadows in life instead of feeling the love. Sometimes it’s hard to remember that things aren’t what they seem.
Mole hills aren’t mountains. There’s always another option and another way to see what you’re seeing and shrink mountains into small challenges.
Two: Change is Not as Hard As We Often Make It
It’s easy to look at what can seem like a huge project of changing your life around and feel utterly demoralized by it. This is a common mistake we make in so many areas of life. The truth is, life and change and goals and everything is only as hard as you decide it has to be.
The secret? It’s fine to look at the big picture once in a while, but don’t get stuck staring at it. Identify the next small steps you can to take and just take them. Suddenly you’ll find you’re making more progress than you ever dreamed possible.
Small, manageable steps will get you where you want to go. While staring at that unmoving mountain will only fill you up on despair. I found using the mantra, “easy and effortless” instead of, “this is hard” to be amazingly powerful.
Three: Focus on the Future is Undermining Everything
This is the tricky one and it gets all of us when we’re not present. When you spend all your energy focused on where you want to go, you can’t live in the present moment. The only time we can change anything is now, in the present moment.
In the present moment you can see how far you’ve come and appreciate your journey. Staying present can be challenging though and that’s why we need to practice it daily. Take a deep breath, relax completely as you exhale and feel the presence; let joy bubble to the surface and take that with you into your next step. If you’re staying present, you don’t need to worry about the future; it will take care of itself.
Why I Opened The Mentoring Program So Briefly This Time
I know that I haven’t given you much notice for the current Mentoring Program application opportunity process. I had actually not planned to open it up again for another couple months, but a few spots were available and I thought, what if NOW is the moment that someone really needed or wanted to get started changing their lives?
And so I thought that even if it was just a short notice I’d go ahead and let you know about it in case this was the best time for you.
Here’s what to do next…
So here’s your reminder. The application process is open until Sunday evening and I’ll be reviewing applications between now and then. Every person whose application qualifies will receive a free, 1-hour phone session with me and if you DO qualify, you’ll receive an email with instructions sometime after your application is sent.
And of course, if you have any questions at all about it, please just reply to this email, or post a comment on the latest blog post and I’ll be sure to reply and answer all questions.
I look forward to hearing your thoughts and helping you on your journey in any way I can.
With much love and aloha,
I adopted this mantra a number of years ago and my life has never been the same. It just keeps getting better and better. I love allowing life to unfold in an easy and effortless way. That certainly doesn’t mean I don’t take action, I do but in an easy and effortless way. I follow my spirit, bliss, joy or happiness however you want to think about it.
What does that look like?
To me, more accurately it is how that feels. I get a sense, an inner knowing before I take an action and the actions have a powerful result in my life. Easy and effortless has erased fear from my life. All I have to do to experience what I want in my life is to follow the cosmic breadcrumbs.
What are cosmic breadcrumbs?
They come in many shapes and sizes. Cosmic breadcrumbs are definitely not one size fits all. They do always lead you closer to your spirit, they are loving and expansive although following them may seem to fly in the face of logic. Making the leap to follow our spirit may actually cause fear to roar to the surface but fear is after all an illusion and only the love is real.
Why does fear seem so VERY REAL?
I have spent a lot of my life either running from fear or making choices based on fear. That is until I began to focus on changing my point of creation from my mind to my spirit. When I’m in alignment with my spirit fear truly has no meaning, I am surrounded in love and life becomes easy and my choices evident and effortless.
It is amazing what a difference that simple change in perspective makes. My spirit leaves wonderful cosmic breadcrumbs while my mind has me going round and round like a hamster on a wheel.
Hope you decide to shift your point of creation and enjoy the world that love builds. Stay tuned for some awesome new classes and opportunities to work with me.
With love and aloha,
You really are limitless. All of our limitations arise from our filter system – our beliefs, agreements, assumptions and attitudes.
May 2013 be absolutely awesome and filled with magic, wonder and grace.
When I was in Japan I sent out an email asking people if they would like a personal video for the most pressing concerns in their lives. I got lots of emails and have finally begun making my video responses. I will e mail people as their videos are made. I left out people’s names so I could share some of the videos on my blog.
Here is the first of many. This video is about how to decided what to focus on in life when so much needs to be changed. It wonde up being about the 80/20% rule.
If you’d like your own personal video on something that is bothering you leave a comment or send me an email.
With love and aloha,
Have you ever had an absolutely incredible dessert? You know, one that was the best tasting thing you could imagine and then you came to the last bite.
What if you could stretch that last bite out; really extend the experience? What if you could expand all the wonderful experiences in life and erase all the ones you’d rather not have?
This is a short video I made about the importance of savoring life. Enjoy!
We never see life directly, we see it through what I call our filter system; our beliefs, agreements, assumptions and attitudes. When we learn how to let go of our filter system, life expands exponentially. The sun becomes brighter, colors more vibrant and creating what we most want in life becomes easier.
You can change your filter system once you become aware of it. If you are serious about changing your life, my latest class, Creating What You Really Want is open for registration until Friday. I’ll be teaching you all about your filter system and you’ll walk step-by-step through exercises that will empower you to take the next step toward your dreams. I hope to see you there!
With love and aloha,
I remember as a little girl reciting this poem and really hoping my dreams would come true.
Star light, star bright,
First star I see tonight,
I wish I may, I wish I might,
Have the wish I wish tonight.
I am sure sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn’t. Whatever we focus our attention on we get more of so if you wish for something, focus your attention on it lovingly and give thanks for already having it you’d be amazed at how quickly it shows up.
The key to having what we want is how we focus our attention and the emotional environment we create. If we worry and are immersed in fear trauma and drama is the most likely outcome. Trusting the process, love and gratitude create very different results.
That is one of the reasons I so often suggest focusing on gratitude. When we are grateful we surround ourselves with love. When gratitude is our main focus magic and miracles become a part of our everyday life.
So what are you wishing for? How long is your gratitude list?
With lots of gratitude,
Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.
Getting in touch with your passion makes a huge difference. Deciding to live that passion is the key living the life of your dreams.
What is your passion?
I had no idea at first. I started by making a list of nurturing things. Initially to create that I had to experiment. I would try something and if I enjoyed it I’d add it to my list. I found curiosity very useful.
I’d think about doing something nurturing and then I’d mull it over. I ask myself some questions.
Is that expansive, healthy, or in short good for me?
Will I have fun?
How will I feel afterwards?
Will it add to the quality of my life?
When my first thought was no found I’d have to ask myself if I had ever tried it. Often, after experimenting I would find myself adding it to my list.
I found there were things that just felt good and things that helped me define my passion. The more I explored the better my life became. I actually began to define and follow my passions.
What is your list of nurturing things?
For a number of years I put my list of nurturing things in the back of my journal. That way I always knew where it was and could easily add something new. When I begin working with someone I often suggest they start their own list. They response I often get is, “Why bother?”
A list of nurturing things is a list of things that feed your soul. Passion, true passion comes from your soul. It is related to the essence of your being.
True desire comes from your soul. Doing one thing that feeds your soul every day will set you free!
With love and aloha,
Watch your emails for an upcoming class!
Love to see your list of nurturing things in the comment section ……