Today is Friday and we’re heading into the weekend. I was thinking about some of the most common problems that I see people having when it comes to finding joy and happiness. I’d like to share the top three issues that seem to stop all of us from feeling the natural joy we could be experiencing otherwise.
There’s a funny thing about changing your life. While on the one hand, it’s hard at times and takes dogged determination to stick with it, it’s also as simple and instantaneous and easy as pausing to take a deep breath and smiling in the moment of difficulty. Change can actually be fun, rather easy and enjoyable once you know how to change.
One: Making Mountains Out of a Mole Hills
I once had a poster that said, “When you are up to your ass in alligators it is hard to remember your initial objective was to drain the swamp.” It was a wonderful reminder when I was down and looking at the shadows in life instead of feeling the love. Sometimes it’s hard to remember that things aren’t what they seem.
Mole hills aren’t mountains. There’s always another option and another way to see what you’re seeing and shrink mountains into small challenges.
Two: Change is Not as Hard As We Often Make It
It’s easy to look at what can seem like a huge project of changing your life around and feel utterly demoralized by it. This is a common mistake we make in so many areas of life. The truth is, life and change and goals and everything is only as hard as you decide it has to be.
The secret? It’s fine to look at the big picture once in a while, but don’t get stuck staring at it. Identify the next small steps you can to take and just take them. Suddenly you’ll find you’re making more progress than you ever dreamed possible.
Small, manageable steps will get you where you want to go. While staring at that unmoving mountain will only fill you up on despair. I found using the mantra, “easy and effortless” instead of, “this is hard” to be amazingly powerful.
Three: Focus on the Future is Undermining Everything
This is the tricky one and it gets all of us when we’re not present. When you spend all your energy focused on where you want to go, you can’t live in the present moment. The only time we can change anything is now, in the present moment.
In the present moment you can see how far you’ve come and appreciate your journey. Staying present can be challenging though and that’s why we need to practice it daily. Take a deep breath, relax completely as you exhale and feel the presence; let joy bubble to the surface and take that with you into your next step. If you’re staying present, you don’t need to worry about the future; it will take care of itself.
Why I Opened The Mentoring Program So Briefly This Time
I know that I haven’t given you much notice for the current Mentoring Program application opportunity process. I had actually not planned to open it up again for another couple months, but a few spots were available and I thought, what if NOW is the moment that someone really needed or wanted to get started changing their lives?
And so I thought that even if it was just a short notice I’d go ahead and let you know about it in case this was the best time for you.
Here’s what to do next…
So here’s your reminder. The application process is open until Sunday evening and I’ll be reviewing applications between now and then. Every person whose application qualifies will receive a free, 1-hour phone session with me and if you DO qualify, you’ll receive an email with instructions sometime after your application is sent.
And of course, if you have any questions at all about it, please just reply to this email, or post a comment on the latest blog post and I’ll be sure to reply and answer all questions.
I look forward to hearing your thoughts and helping you on your journey in any way I can.
With much love and aloha,