How can you really be happier?

Life is and then we tell ourselves a story. It is the story that creates our emotional response. We are constantly reacting to our story about life, not life itself. The more aware we are of the story the easier it is to change. Once we consciously choose our story we can choose happiness instead of misery on a regular basis.

2. Now ask yourself a few new questions

Habitually we tend to ask ourselves questions like:

Why did this happen to me?
What did I do to deserve this?

Or we make observations like:

Life isn’t fair.
That is so wrong!

Start asking yourself questions like:

Do I want to be right or do I want to be happy?
How can I see this differently?
What can I tell myself that will create a sense of joy and ease right now?

3. Decide how you want to feel

Happiness is simply a matter of deciding how you want to feel and telling yourself a story that will produce that feeling.

But isn’t that denial? The truth is the truth!

Actually the truth is relative.  I suggest you adopt a new paradigm in life, one that allows you to feel peace of mind, loved and makes it easier to create what you want when you want it. I’ve talked about it before. For a lack of a better name I call it dominion. If you go to my website and type in dominion in the search box you will find podcasts and articles galore.

In the paradigm of dominion our vision of life becomes expansive. In dominion, everyone is part of a greater whole, everyone is an equal and integral part of the circle of life. We are no longer residing in an either/or situation; the whole and the person become one. A person truly living in dominion cannot make a choice that will harm another. Rather than being fear-based, dominion is based in love, unconditional love for the self and all other beings great and small.

So happiness is simply a matter of retraining your mind to see the world through the eyes of love instead of fear. And what an amazing difference that makes. Thankfully you really don’t have to change your entire life in order to be happy you just need to retrain your mind.

Bliss is your birthright and it is just a thought away.

With love and aloha,

My Art of Allowing program will help you make that shift. Check it out.

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  1. Joy and peace are the greatest of things. The knowledge that anybody can find this is alien to many, but remains true, as you point out. Posts like these are short on supply and if you have the ability to let people know how to access that which cannot be easily explained, then you are truly fulfilling your purpose as a human being.

    • Joy and peace are merely a thought away yet choosing to think that thought often takes willingness and practice. Thanks for stopping by Robin.

      With love,


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