Often when I ask people that question I get a puzzled look and then a list of things that make them feel unhappy. After they rattle off that list they will add a few things they enjoy.
Can you relate to feeling like that cat? I used to wake up feeling like that most mornings. Now, I wake up excited about the day, with a smile on my face as I slowly awaken with a loving sigh echoing in my head. Life is grand, a far cry from the days I woke up frazzled before the day even began.
One of the things I have observed is that if a person doesn’t feel loved they seldom feel happy. That makes sense because our true nature is one of love. If we have disconnected from the essence of who and what we are, how can we possible be happy?
I just finished writing my latest book Happiness the Skill: 5 Simple Steps for Enjoying Your Life and in it I talk a great deal about self-love and acceptance.
One of the greatest gift you can give yourself is love. Love and honor who and what you are. Accept yourself completely and make all of your choices based on love.
Just like happiness, love is an inside job. When we love ourselves unconditionally our life becomes lighter and more expansive. As the fear of loosing someone’s love recedes we have more freedom to be fully and completely ourselves.
Living life from your heart is very different from living your life from the perspective of your mind. What if all of your communications were heart to heart rather than mind to mind. When we speak from our heart we no longer need to be right we can choose to be happy instead.
My favorite question has long been: Do you want to be right or happy?
I’d love to see your thoughts about living life from your heart and choosing to be happy rather than right. What that would look like in your life? Do you have any thoughts about being happy rather than right? Generally once I pose that question I get the question: Why can’t I be both?
I always love reading your comments so type away in the comment section below.
With a big smile and lots of love,
Susan
I’ve so benefited from your books and teachings. One of the things your question method has taught me is I don’t have “to know” to feel safe, secure or admired. One of my mirror affirmations is “I am perfectly comfortable not knowing”. If I think I have to be right or I have to know, I get rigid and defensive. The affirmation has helped me relax, let go and be happy. Glad to hear the Pod casts are coming back. Thank you.
Thanks Maryanne,
It is always nice to hear that my words generate more love in the world.
I like your affirmation about not knowing. Once we say “I know” we have limited ourselves because the knowing closes out any other possibilities. My mind wants to know exactly what is coming next and wants to know all the answers. My spirit grateful drifts in the limitless possibilities of not knowing.
Today I am recording the next podcast and my producer should have it up soon. I hope to get back to doing one every two weeks!
With love and a big smile,
Susan
Dear Susan,
Thank you for you always inspiring words. They remind me to be open and let go.
“Do you want to be right or happy?” This is a great gift to my marriage. When the moment comes I wold start arguing for my truth than I remember this. It really keeps the climate in the family much calmer 😉
May you and all your work be blessed!
With love,
Eliska
Thank you Eliska,
Choosing happy instead of right makes life so much more joyous. Funny how from of limited fear based mind RIGHT really matters.
Sending you a big cosmic hug,
Susan