The other day I was thinking about the phrase trust the process. I realized the more I get out of my own way the more magical my life becomes. But where does the magic come from and what does it mean to get out of my own way?

All of my limitations originate in my filter system. What really gets in the way are my beliefs, agreements and assumptions. Magic is the essence of who and what I am.

When I first began my journey the idea of surrendering and letting go terrified me. Trusting the process seemed like pure folly. Now I know surrender is the gateway to my personal freedom and trusting the process is the only thing that makes sense.

For a long time I avoided my fear. I actually fooled myself into believing I was fearless when fear was the basis of all my choices. Once I realized how many permutations fear had I embraced it and chose to consciously move toward it. I found that time and time again freedom existed just on the other side of my fear. Eventually I realized my greatest power lies in my complete vulnerability and in my absolute surrender.

Moment by moment, thought by thought I’m either deepening my connection with my filter system or my spirit. And when I sincerely ask myself, “What do I want to create?” the likelihood of deepening my connection with my spirit is greatly enhanced.

I recently had a listener to my podcast ask me about controlled folly. I hadn’t thought about controlled folly in a number of years. When we are profoundly asleep to who and what we really are the only thing we can do is react to life. When we wake up to who and what we really are we realize one of the ways we can choose to be in life is called controlled folly. Once we realize we’re a spirit and not our body we realize life is just a game. What we create or don’t create doesn’t really matter.

Having a physical body is a wonderful gift. What we do with our life doesn’t really have a profound meaning it is just what we choose to do with our life. I like both chocolate and vanilla. I can choose to be happy or choose to be sad. I can choose to act from a place of love or fear, not because it’s the right thing to do, but because it feels better. As I awaken to my true nature to question, “what do I want to create” takes on new meaning.

There are no shoulds or have tos there is just what I wanted to. What do you want to do with your life? What choices make your heart sing? What would happen to the quality of your life if you chose moment by moment to create that which brings you joy? Controlled folly is to think that any of it matters to anyone other than you.

At first I had resistance to the idea, but now I see the freedom in it. When I’m connected to my spirit my choices benefit myself and others. Not because it matters but because another word for Spirit is love, pure, unconditional, unfettered, limitless love.

With lots of love and aloha,