Have you ever wondered where love goes when a relationship ends badly?
When we have engaged in fear based love the ending often morphs into judgment, gossip or when the ‘hurt’ is extreme, love turns to hatred.
Anything other than love, pure unconditional, expansive, all encompassing love is fear based. Many time our relationships are fear based, our love is conditional. I’ll love you as long as you do this but if you do this I will cease to love you.
Setting boundaries in our relationships is fine and necessary. It really is OK to ask for what you want.
We can decide certain behaviors aren’t acceptable but that doesn’t mean we have to shut off the love or turn it into judgment or anger if someone doesn’t comply.
Love only turns into anger when fear is involved. Love expands, fear contracts.
What does love based love look like?
acceptance
joy
appreciation
respect
generosity
enjoyment
cherishing
gratitude
peace
compassion
heartfelt
wisdom
Fear based love is full of judgment, control, right and wrong, it’s capricious, superficial, inconsistent, irrational, irresponsible, irrational, erratic and at is core unloving.
Which do you choose?
Embracing love based love and living takes practice. You can do it and you can begin with yourself. Thought by thought and action by action.
Fear based love isn’t bad it just isn’t long lasting and expansive love. Fill your life with real love and watch what happens. I can guarantee you will ‘love’ the results.
Love or fear, they affect all areas of life. When you embrace love based love magic and miracles become part of everyday life.
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With love and aloha,
Susan
PS. As always, I’m a comment junky. I love reading your thoughts and feeling in the comment section below. So please post away!
Yes I noticed when my last relationship ended I was hurt and devastated. And in a fit of rage I assassinated my ex partners character. I guess I thought more about what I didn’t want because in the end that’s what I got. When it was so perfect before the fear.
Noticing the fear and moving back toward love always helps us heal. It does take intent and practice.
Sending you love, Susan
Thank you Susan. Looking foward your next Facebook live.
This week I will do a Facebook live – glad you enjoy them!
Nice thoughts…thanks a lot…and where to find the love based love…will it find me? Should we do anything to find it? Or just fill our life with love and wait to be found…
Love isn’t something we wait for or if we do we will be waiting for ever. Love is an action verb. Love yourself unconditionally, practice letting go of fear and then share your love with others. Random acts of kindness are a wonderful way to do that – simply smiling at others and filling that smile with love can make such a difference in the world.
I see…Thank you Susan.
Choosing love sure makes a huge difference in life – Thanks for checking in and commenting!
Love the definitions of love and the reminder to apply these to myself. Many thanks.
Change our definitions – change our life – compassion and love sure makes a wonderful world and life