What do you believe you deserve?
At the core of your being there is a script and that script dictates what you think you deserve, what you expect in all areas of your life.
That script, your beliefs about your deserving nature will control how much love, happiness, joy, money or drama enters your life.
Take a deep breath and ask yourself these questions. Write down the first thought that you have. (Seriously, take a moment to write down those first thoughts)
- Love – are you lovable, do you deserve love? Do you deserve to be treated with respect?
- Your home – do you deserve to live in a beautiful, comfortable home?
- Community – do you deserve to be surrounded by loving supportive people?
- Enjoyment – do you deserve to enjoy all areas of your life?
- Money – how much money do you deserve to have or not have? Does it flow easily in your life?
- Ease – is life meant to be easy and effortless?
- Health – do you deserve to be healthy and enjoy your body?
You deserving nature – that script, that collection of beliefs act like a filter only allowing in what you believe you deserve.
Changing the script
Deciding what you deserve, once your aware of the beliefs going on in the background is relatively easy.
Take a moment to write down what you want ‘to deserve.’ Then make, “I deserve ___________” your mantra.
Every time you think about love for example, “I deserve to be treated with a great deal of dignity and respect.”
Perhaps about money, “Money is my friend, it flows into my life easily and effortlessly and I always use it wisely.”
Really allow yourself to feel the statements you make. Change your deserving nature into one that is supportive of the life you truly want to live.
As always I love seeing your questions, thoughts and feelings in the comment section.
With love and aloha,
Susan
I found this post to be particularly helpful. I have trouble believing that I deserve anything. Thank you.
Change that belief and realize you deserve the best in life and then some!
Knowing you deserve – you deserve love, happiness, abundance and to wake up happy to be you and to be alive
With love, Susan
Thank you, thank you, thank you. This came at a perfect time. A friend and I have been working on deserving good things and letting go of old beliefs that prevent receiving abundance. Love your method of questioning beliefs. I find it very helpful. Greatly appreciated your sharing.
MAryanne,
Thanks for your comments. It is amazing how some of the simplest things make such a difference.
With love, Susan
Thank you … I had not thought to look at some of these things in this way and I believe this was a helpful exercise. This exercise also showed that I am more aligned than I thought I was and help with my thoughts will make a great difference.
Best, Sue
Aloha Sue,
I am the queen so to speak of simple exercises. Glad my words helped.
With a big smile of gratitude,
Susan
This post so goes along with what I am trying to manifest abundance in my life. I do believe I deserve the things you asked but maybe not all the time. I do feel I deserve love but maybe not all kinds of love. I do feel loved by my family and friends and I am working on accepting and loving all of me. thank you for reinforcing what I want to do!
Clara
Maybe it is time for a series of post on abundance!
Thanks Clara
I am still in the process of reading your 2nd book, so much in it that I have to stop, take notes and reflect on where it touches my life. I’ve studied and searched for years, and no one has been able to put these truths into words which my heart comprehended. Thank you.
So glad my words have touched your heart.
With love, Susan
Clara, I feel the same way. I found myself writing that I deserve… But…
Well if there is a ‘but’ that clearly means I don’t believe I truly deserve it.
You know, without any contengencies or special criteria.
It’s amazing how you think about something superficially and then it hits you like a ton of bricks when you dig a little deeper.
…How do I change that script? How does one truly let go of the buts, if’s and only’s and truly believe… Truly deserve??
Simply by repeating what you do want to deserve. All beliefs are just phrases we repeated over and over again. Playing with what you want to deserve feels good – so focus on the good feelings of your expansive, deserving nature!
Thanks Tan for asking
Oooh! As I went through these questions and immediately wrote what I deserved, I got excited. Sometimes we all need to focus and write what we deserve to change our thought patterns and beliefs. Thank you, Susan, and money is a big thing especially for my husband and me. I will now look at money and its use in a wiser way and consider it, because I use it wisely, to be my good friend. Working with these questions, without pondering necessarily too long, helps me focus and center on what I DESERVE. Thank you again.
Make money your friend, you ally and supportive. Have a relationship with money that is easy, fun and effortless – then watch your financial reality change. Money is only energy after all – so let it flow easily into your life!
Thanks Marilynn
thank you Susan 😉
yesyes it’s all in the mind and the stars
big hug from belgium
xxx
Thanks Nikki
Sending a big hug right back to you.
With love, Susan
Thank you, Susan. Great addition to “simple practice” about loving myself, very useful, practical and clear. As always I have been touched with perfect image for the subject ( on previous blogpost it was “train your mind as a dog”) and now -to deserve!…another thing I learn/appreciate from you besides the subject of the story is -to say HUGE wisdom in few sentences and constructive….thank you
Baiba what a pleasure working with you is.
Love and hugs, Suasn
We all deserve the best of everything Susan. Thank you for your wonderful sharing.
Everyone deserves to experience the love and magic this universe holds. Thanks joan.
With love, Susan
Thanks Susan. As usual you offer words of wisdom and simple practices.
I have written my intention and although my old filter system keeps showing up from time to time, I refuse to go back to that thinking. Anything contrary to my intention is not true and that’s that.
Thank you teaching me that I can change my mind and remain open to receive all of my good. I love you and appreciate all that I have learned from you.
My pleasure Bettye
Dear Susan,
I have been trying to set Good habits of everyday having 3 things I am grateful for, 3 things I am excited about and a positive affirmation.
I hurt my lower back at work yesterday and bad things keep seeming to pop left and right. I can only take some much and I try to help out whomever I can. Please help!
Katie H
Do you love, really love yourself? Until I learned to really really love myself and let go of judgments (good and bad for one) I always seemed to have ‘bad luck.’
Life just is and then we tell ourselves a story. Spend time everyday looking at yourself in the mirror, saying I love you and really mean it. Don’t try to love yourself or try to do anything – as the great master Yoda said – there is no try just do or don’t do.
Hope that helps, Susan